Bella and the book! |
Many of our pets do things that drive us crazy, and may act guilty for it. Often I hear clients say
" She knew she was bad when she grabbed my book and ran around the house with it!". I hear my own daughter Glenda say that about our young dog Bella. Even I begin to think that way when Bella starts nosing around the book shelf looking to grab a brightly colored book.. Now for Bella, she may first have fun cavorting around the living room with said book in her mouth, but when Glenda starts commanding Bella to"drop it!" Bella looks guilty because she knows Glenda is upset but she does not understand why. Even though Glenda knows that Bella takes the book to get attention, Glenda at times still thinks of her own need to watch TV or whatever rather than give Bella really what she wants - appropriate play time.
Our pets can't always figure out all that we want from them. Many times our pets seem to understand what we want - a warm nuzzle, or a pestering "take me out" to help raise us out a down mood for example. Dogs, cats, and other pets are always observing us, noting what they do that leads us humans to behave the way they want. They gain that understanding of us just by observing. It is not in any way complete, yet it is pretty good.
To begin to understand what your pet needs, or why your pet does the crazy things it does, start by just observing the behaviors. When Bella starts to nose at the book shelf, Glenda now remembers to get the ball and start a rousing game of fetch. Actually they are both learning to start the fun before Bella goes to the book shelf. Bella needs lots of aerobic activity to be a good dog. Starting a game of chase was her way of getting the activity she was craving. Getting yelled at or commanded to drop the book was not really getting things better. So watch what your pet is doing ( jumping on the counter) and what good thing is there for your pet ( eating food, investigating things) and what can you do to fill that same need ( hide food around the house in appropriate places for your cat to find). Start by observing your pet without judging. It will help open your eyes to knowing your pet.
Bella and Butter playing nice |